When 30-year-olds who are 12 Date
“Something you said Saturday night confused me.”
“Oh?”
“You mentioned how I am different from other women because I do not demand 10,001 commitments. And you made it sounds like a compliment.”
“Maybe demand is the wrong word. I have been trapped before.”
“Trapped?”
“Yeah, like when one day it’s going to the movies and the next she’s asking what I want for our 50th wedding anniversary. What we want to name the second kid.”
“I see. Because I had been thinking yesterday. I was thinking that maybe…I…didn’t want to…date…(cough)…other people. And I was thinking that you would like that. But then I remembered what you said and I wasn’t sure anymore.”
“I would like that. I would like that a lot. I just don’t feel I have a right to ask that because I can’t offer anything more right now.” *
“But you’re never going to be able offer anything more. This is it.”
“True.”
“So…it seems either we can make it work the way things are or we can’t.”
“A fair assessment. It would be nice to know you only want to spend time with me. It would be a relief that you were saving your time for me.”
“….”
“….”
“….”
“….”
“…I’m trying to say something. The commitmentphobe in me is holding back.”
“I figured. I heard the cough.” **
“So I think…maybe that’s what I want to do.”
“I’ve got a warm fuzzy feeling right now.”
“Are you sure that’s not a pit in your stomach?”
“No. It’s definitely higher.”
“Good.”
*He works insane hours, and shift to boot. He has mentioned several times that he thinks it might lighten up after this or that, but finally on Saturday I cut through the bullshit and got him to admit he loves his job so much there will always be something.
**I get this throat tickle when talking about relationships. I call it my commitment phobic cough. I also flap my hands around like a penguin attempting flight; you just can’t see it over the phone.
This is the new guy, right? Not TG?
Yes, the new guy. ST.
She really does flap her hands around like that. It’s impressive. One of these days, she’s actually going to hover. I just hope I’m there with a camera.