My mom and brother George were here for a few days. There really wasn’t much I needed them to do but be here. I feel bad for them that they had to drop everything and come, but I have done it for them before so I guess we’re even.
They flew in late, late Sunday night and wanted to drive up to Gainesville right away versus staying at hotel in Tampa. That was right about when the tropical storm started effecting Florida.
The entire time we were in Gainesville, it rained. And it pissed me off so much. My favorite weather and I couldn’t enjoy it. Instead it was fucking with my schedule, meant I couldn’t go for morning walks to re-group and get some solitude, and EVERY SINGLE TIME it let up and I went somewhere without an umbrella I got caught in a downpour.
The little I did need them to accomplish, including cheering Gma up, was done with ease. Mostly I needed help deciding which assisted living building would be best, what to do with some of the more expensive unwanted pieces in her apartment, and a good dose of, “You’ll do the right thing” as I charge ahead solo with the rest of this project.
I’m back in Tampa for a few days now. I’m trying to line up appointments next week to tackle the move. I’ll go back up first thing next week with boxes and start the great purge. She currently is in a 2 bedroom+den apartment that’s twice the size of my condo. I am incredibly lucky in the fact that Gma seems happy to let me make the decisions on what goes and what stays. I do know that once I have her moved to the new assisted living space, she’ll complain endlessly about the result. But that’s OK.
This is a woman I surprised with Valentine’s Day roses delivered knowing full well when I saw her next I’d hear the great drama and struggle of how she couldn’t get them out the box/arranged/cut/etc. I’m just saying.
I am very much at loose ends at home. Tom is still working mostly crazy hours, with a crazy commute on top of that. I am going through the motions of our old life, but I know it’s limbo. And Lady Dog is still with my in-laws (thank goodness!) so even my old routines aren’t complete.
But it’s raining this morning. I turned off the AC and opened the patio door. Limbo, loose ends, and moving be damned for now. I feel good.